motor & self help skills

My focus child, J has pretty good motor skills. Although he has to wear braces on his legs he is able to walk. He can grasp materials although he does have trouble with his right hand. J has some self help skills but not all. He is working on toileting. He can wash his hands and take off his shoes on his own. He gets daily feedings through a feeding tube so he does not actually feed himself. He enjoys being able to do things on his own and I feel that he will continue to develop more self help skills. He is some what behind on some motor skills but for the most part he is doing well. I try to see what he can do first and then go from there. However he is very certain about what things he does and does not want to do.